Tuesday, September 16, 2014
Wednesday, February 26, 2014
Obviously for all the reasons listed in my previous blog I love the social aspects of social networking, however, the single thing I love most is the actual NETWORKING! Social networks, has allowed me to realize that I have built an expansive network of some amazing friends and associates. Regardless of the topic, there is someone in my network who is a subject matter expert (SME) I can reach out to. I have reached out to a number of you for your help, advice, guidance, or just general information and you have all been gracious. A wise man once said “you’re only as successful as your network” (I may have made that quote up.. but, whatever .. it works .. lol) and I am grateful to have you all in mine!
As a result, I decided to write a few tips on how to network successfully on social networks:
1) Build your own value/worth
I believe that as humans we have an innate selfish nature and drive (some of us more than others). As a result, people are more likely to help someone they think they could possibly need to reach back to one day. If you only portray negativity in your posts, or aren’t showing signs of progressing yourself or positive things that you are doing, it probably weakens your chances of getting a response when you reach out to someone.
2) Share the wealth
If you have some information that you believe someone can benefit from, even if you can’t (ie: job postings, housing opportunities, info about the latest things happening in certain market segments) SHARE THE INFORMATION. People on your timeline will remember that you also share information and are more likely willing to share with you.
3) Do your homework first
Please don’t reach out to your network asking for advice or information that is easily accessible. Instead, do your own research first. Show them that you have performed your due diligence and they will be more likely to fill in the piece of the puzzle that you are missing. Don’t just expect them to hand you a road map to achieve the same level of success that they spent countless hours working hard to attain.
4) ‘Number four shoulda been number one to me’ (Greg remix): Networking <> Hook Up
A popular misconception is that networking = hookup! People expect that because a friend is in a trusted position of authority that entitles them to the access. As a result, a lot of people are afraid to even let others know where they work, because others are looking for a discount, or a job offer, etc … When you network, your only expectation should be knowledge… anything extra is an added bonus… don’t expect people to risk their jobs for you.
5) Yes, they’re your friend .. Yes, they own the business … No, you shouldn’t get a discount
If someone in your network has their own business and is very good at their craft, you should by all means support their business. That is how our network grows stronger. However, just because you knew them from elementary school (cue Big Pun) doesn’t entitle you to “take food out of their mouth”. If you notice a competitor has a cheaper rate for the same service, then feel free to negotiate based on that, but don’t feel entitled or think differently of the friendship if they say no. It then becomes your choice if you’ll still use them or the competitor.
6) Say “Thank You!” even if all they were able to do was listen.
There are those few times when we reach out to people and they are unable to help. Either they didn’t know the information you were looking for, were unable to grant the favor requested, or didn’t provide any additional knowledge to what you already knew. The fact is, they were willing to listen (or read the email) and for that you should be show gratitude. It will also make them more likely to help the next time you reach out or if they happen to gain that information in the future.
7) Pay it forward
Finally, if someone reaches out to you for information or help, don’t hesitate to reach out and lend that helping hand!
But then again, what do I know…
Over the course of my 35 years, I have been blessed to have attended some “good schools” and take advantage of some great personal and professional opportunities. Invariably, as each of those opportunities came to an end (graduation, another opportunity, etc..), you always exchange daps and hugs with everyone and say the obligatory “Make sure you keep in touch!”, “Don’t forget us!”, and “Here’s my info, hit me up!!”, which I’ve learned over the years was actually just a nice way of saying “Goodbye!”, “It’s been real!”, or “Catch you next lifetime!”.
We’re probably all guilty of this and it’s certainly not intentional, we absolutely intended on keeping in touch, but your good intent is often replaced with trying to cope and balance new challenges, opportunities, and sometimes new friends (sorry, Drake!) which just made it impossible… until Social Networks!
One of the things I love about social networks is that it has afforded me the opportunity to rekindle and maintain some lost friendships, meet and interact with people who I didn’t get a chance to interact with much (or at all) in those former schools and opportunities, and just keep a finger on the pulse of what’s happening in my friends’ lives when mine sometimes gets too busy to even place a call (but not too busy to check social networks, obviously … nobody’s that busy! … lol).
Whether, it’s a simple comment on a post (ratchet or uplifting, personal or professional, serious or funny), a quick “hello” through an inbox, or just seeing you post something on your page, I know you’re doing well (or at least well enough … well, most of you … some of you I can see the tears streaming through those motivational memes... lol ), I appreciate you all and I’m happy to have you as “friends”.
But then again …. What do I know?!!
Friday, February 7, 2014
A status so simple, yet so powerful!
This status, obviously a play on the word beautiful (no reader left behind :-)), reflects on a word I've heard pronounced this way several times, but something about seeing it spelled out like that spoke volumes.
It's a reminder that everyone is beautiful in their own way. There is a distinct beauty in being you!
We sometimes end up comparing our 'beauty' to others forgetting to take some time to reflect on the beauty that is you....
Be reminded that your beauty isn't just physical, it starts within and whenever you compare it to, or try to be someone else, you're robbing the world of seeing the beauty that is you....
We're all fearfully and wonderfully made! ... and might I say some of you, very wonderfully ... sorry, I digress...
But as you go through your day today and everyday, don't forget to Be-You-tiful! It looks good on you!!
But then again, what do I know....
Thursday, January 9, 2014
Tuesday, December 31, 2013
- A) If you don't set a SPECIFIC and MEASURABLE target then you won't be able identify your ultimate goal and track your progress. For instance, if you don't set a specific number for weight loss, then technically one pound would make you accomplish that goal, but we all know you ain't making no resolution for 1 pound .. lol
- Additionally, without a specific number, you won't be able to track and measure when you are making progress. Measuring progress can be as simple as keeping a log to track it as you go along, benchmarking against where you were when you started and identifying things that you couldn't do before (ie: pushups, pullups, run a mile without stopping, etc, or even pictures).
- These will help you out when you start to get discouraged if you think you are not progressing as fast as you would like, and help to serve as a reminder that you are much further along than when you started.
- B) Ensure your goals are ATTAINABLE, REALISTIC, and TIMEBOUND. These go hand in hand. Yes, losing 30 pounds, or going from a sedentary lifestyle to a gym rat 7 days a week is attainable, but not within one month. Be realistic with yourself. What is the overall goal you would like to accomplish and by when can you seriously expect to accomplish it. This doesn't mean to be afraid to challenge yourself with stretch goals, but if the overall goal is to lose 30 pounds set a realistic time frame for accomplishing the goal, and/or set sub milestones ... they say the best way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time ... but then again, that's gotta work against your weight loss goals... lol
- Make better food choices
- Write grocery shopping list
- Only buy items on list
- Only 1 cheat meal per week (Thursday night this week)
- Go to the gym 3 times a week
- Get gym membership (by Friday)
- Create gym schedule every week to figure out which 3 days I can go and if I need to go Mornings or evenings to ensure I get my 3 days in (Every Sunday)
- Pack gym bag night before
But then again, what do I know ....